Hello, good morning to you
I came across your site when I was looking up more information about throat cancer
I am feeling really distraught at the moment as my fiance, who lives in New York, is currently undergoing treatment for throat cancer
Whilst I appreciate he is in the best place I feel so bad that I can’t be at his side and just don’t know what to do to keep upbeat and be supportive to him and his family
I know I probably have no right to contact you like this, but I am really at my wits end and I feel that I need a little support too. I spent all day yesterday crying as it was his first day of treatment (radiotherapy and his 1st session of chemo) and he stayed in hospital for the day/night
I was going to go out and be with him, but with the price of fuel etc, flights from UK are so expensive, he said, no baby, we can’t afford it, we will see each other at Christmas as arranged
I just want to be a help to him and not be a drain on him, so I am trying to be upbeat when we speak, but fall apart after I have put the phone down
Luckily I am back at work next week and get so busy I don’t have time to think about anything except work, but I sm still worried as I care and love him so much
Any ideas that may help me therefore to help him?
Thank you so very much for your time and patience
I am truly sorry to hear about your fiancé.
There is no easy solution to any of these situations. Please remember I’m not a Doctor, nor do I have any training to assist anybody at times such as this.
It is absolutely essential that he does what ever his specialists tell him to do and some. If you read through my daily diaries, I list all the things that was suggested to me and the extra things that my Wife did for me. All the vitamins, creams to protect the skin, saliva assisted jells and bucket loads of fresh carrot juice.
I can only offer you assistance from my own personal experiences. I had 8 weeks of radiotherapy but not the Chemo, so this is something I can not offer any advice on.
All I know is that your Fiancé is going to need all the love and support of his Family and friends that you can give him.
If there is any way that you can get over to the States, then I’d strongly suggest it. He does not realise just yet, but he is going to need your love and support next him in the next few weeks. Seven or eight weeks out of your life is not a long time, if it’s going to help save your Fiancés life.
Above all you have to be strong and confident in his company, reassuring and just being with him will make all the difference.
I wish I could be more constructive, but your situation is a little different to mine. My Wife was by my side every minute of the day.
What ever you do, be POSITIVE, he will make it.
My thoughts are with you all and may your God be with with you.